I’m so tired of society taking ownership of women’s bodies, how they dress, when they are ‘allowed’ to have sex, how they are supposed to act, I had to write this piece, not because I have the cure to all this BS that happen to women. Oh, wait I do: let women be in charge of their own bodies. It’s not your virgina, why are you touching it?
Every day, its society vs. the female body, our struggles are unending and usually traumatising, and in the long laundry list of BS we need to deal with, there is Female Genital Mutilation (FGM), also known as female circumcision, a procedure that intentionally alters or causes injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.
Think about it this way, one day someone decided that a woman will automatically be loose if you don’t amputate parts of her virgina, and then stitch it closed. They do leave a 2-3 millimetre for urine and menstrual blood to literally drip out of.
Just imagine not being able to urinate, having menstrual blood build-up inside you, never being able to enjoy sex, because someone who you trusted thought that by cutting you, they are protecting you, and this happens to over 200 million girls and women in over 30 countries.
That’s a frightening number of women that are having their body parts forcefully amputated, for no reason. There are no religious references, no health benefits, just pain and emotional trauma.
I’ve spent a lot of time researching FGM, it’s a practice I first learnt about while doing a radio show I used to host. It immediately struck a nerve, I couldn’t believe that there are places where people believe that removing a woman’s clitoris makes her pure and elevates her chances of finding a husband. I mean if that’s what it takes, I would rather die alone.
Female circumcision is not something that’s done to ‘protect’ the women, the results of this procedure leave the victim scarred for life, and unfortunately many women grow up in societies where the practice is normalised.
Children as young as 2 months have been cut, while their parents watch them, proudly, as the children scream and fight to be left alone. In one of the videos that I watched, a little girl was screaming that she wants to die, while the whole village stood around her, watching, but not stopping it.
It breaks my heart that somewhere in the world a child is being mutilated and being manipulated to believe that the procedure is done for her own good. The victims are told that if they aren’t circumcised that they will be promiscuous, and that no man will ever want to marry them. They are also told that if they get circumcised, they will have less pain when giving birth.
There are literally zero benefits associated with getting circumcised as a female, yet somehow, in 2019 this is still something that happens, a terrifying, life altering, thing. That can’t be undone.
I think that it’s important to have these conversations, because today it’s a little girl in Nigeria, tomorrow it could be a little girl down the road. People do horrible things to other people, people do horrible things to women, I don’t want to be a victim.